I’m guessing that’s what dancers learn when they have to perform. I’m not a dancer (except for what I do in my kitchen) but I think it’s a helpful tip even for life.
Sometimes things go wrong and there’s nothing we can do about that. Life is far from perfect (if perfect is even a thing).
My 11 year old will come home from school and tell me he has had the worst day. I ask him what was wrong about it and he says “everything! It was just an awful day.” When we analyse the day it turns out there was one incident that turned the whole day bad. I’ve seen this with adults as well. We tend to dwell on what was “bad” and our whole day feels bad.
If things aren’t going well with a particular project or a relationship, we can choose to give up or be depressed or we can make it part of the dance of life.
How do we do we make it part of the dance?
Re-look at things and try and reframe them. It always helps to have a listening ear, someone who can be objective and honest yet empathetic at the same time.
You may have to start again or go with a different angle. You may have to apologise or find creative ways to mend your relationships. You may have to fix something that’s broken. You may have to build yourself up again.
There is usually a solution to every problem. I’m not suggesting it will be easy but the situation is rarely hopeless. It becomes hopeless when we believe it is hopeless.
What we believe becomes our reality.
Stumbling, we all do. The trick is to make it part of the dance so that it doesn’t stop you.
Wishing you strength.
Eve Marks is a Healer and Life Coach in Johannesburg.