Healing after Divorce by Eve Marks

I come from a divorced family, as a child, and so I have some insight into the pain and struggles before, during and after divorce. Thankfully, my parents divorced amenably and so we were left “reasonably” intact.  My husband is an attorney and I have worked with him from time to time so I see how divorce can get very ugly too.

Divorce is one of the most stressful things a person can go through in life and there are many broken pieces to pick up. Excess stress can have a dreadful effect on one’s health and people often find that from 18 months of a major loss, they start to get physical symptoms of some sort.  Even if one wanted the divorce, it’s still a loss.

If you have recently started getting physical symptoms of some dis-ease (e.g. back problems, sinusitis, stomach issues, urinary infections, fatigue, throat problems, etc.) think back to what happened approximately 18 months ago…… If it’s a chronic problem you’ve had for ages, it’s likely that it is related to long term stress and tension.

Divorce affects self esteem, trust, our possible fairytale vision of what our life would have been like, it affects our children, the way our extended families interact in the future, our health, how we cope financially to name a few. Life changes dramatically after divorce, sometimes for the better, sometimes not.

As a mother you would probably try and make the after effect as minimal as possible on your children. You would be holding the family together while silently crying inside.  There’s so much to do and it feels as if it’s all on you.

Suddenly you may have to work full time (if you weren’t already doing so) and there’s the extra burden of making money while bringing up the kids at the same time.

This is what I can do….

I can sit with you either personally or on Skype and help you get your life into balance – whether it’s physically, emotionally or spiritually. I can help you to understand and master your inner world so that you can be strong and face the challenges ahead.  I can help you learn to be free of expectations from yourself and others, I can help you build yourself up and I can help you work through difficult relationships.  I can help release resentment and hate because holding on to grudges hurts you and your children.   I can help you to remove your expectations and blame towards your ex (and others) so that you can be free and healthy.

I can also balance your physical energy, help you to relax deeply (while healing at the same time) which is something that women at the best of times hardly get to do.

Even if you don’t come to me for guidance and upliftment, you can sign up to my weekly inspirational blog by emailing me on eve@warmlife.co.za or like my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Eve-Marks-WarmLife-Place-of-Healing-1535577399999002/ so that you get a weekly dose of something uplifting and helpful.

Look after yourself…



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