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Somewhere over the rainbow by Mandy Levin

In the more recent months, since I have embarked on this difficult journey that is divorce, I get told a lot by people that I am ‘amazing’. I also get told that I am ‘incredibly strong’ and that people do not know how I ‘do it’. When I get told these things, I smile. I also recognize that now, as …

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TODAY I SHED A TEAR – by Jacque A

Today I shed a tear of grief for love lost and as its cool watery wetness trickles down my face, I take a moment to honour the memory of all that I have loved and lost, and then come to find love for again without needing to be entwined with them   Today I shed a tear of joy for …

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Don’t let anyone tell you it can’t be done by Kerry Nel

I can very clearly remember the moments I knew my ex husband and I would not be together forever. For me, these were spaces in time where I began to understand that, whatever had just happened, had created a break that no matter how much we wanted to, could not be patched together. It had started as unhappy rumblings and …

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Design your inspired life after divorce by Jacqueline Allschwang

Let me tell you a story, it’s not the typical sort you might be used to, nor does it start like many others you might have heard. It’s not quite a fairy tale, fantasy, comedy or crime…it’s more of an adventure, albeit tinged with some tragedy, and just a pinch of horror. But it does contain some universal truths and …

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The gifts from my divorce by Stacey Lewis

Life happens to us. Often there are situations outside of our control. Sometimes we are the “victims” of decisions that have been made for us. Even when we feel that we have “no choice”, we can still choose how we respond to situation. Looking back, I have realised that there are so many gifts that have been given to me …

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The climb

The end of a marriage, is like a death. In fact, it is, in many ways, worse than a death. I know this, because I have experienced both. I have also heard many survivors of divorce, make this comment and comparison, with absolute certainty. I thought that my father’s tragic death, before I got married, was the worst thing, that …

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When a woman leaves a man

Leaving one’s husband  for another man makes a divorce so much more traumatic and complicated although of course, any divorce is extremely difficult. The guilt of breaking up the family lasts many years. I had left my marriage emotionally many years before I physically left. My ex husband was reeling in shock when I left – he had never listened …

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What I was thinking and feeling when…

What was I thinking and feeling when… …He said he was leaving, without warning or explanation – I was shocked and then horrified and then ashamed and then absolutely grief stricken. At this point, all I could think of is that I did not want to be alone. I remember begging a male friend of mine to please marry me……anything …

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One woman’s story

The time has now come that I have been divorced for longer than I was married……..and I think I am almost ready to discard my anger towards my ex-spouse. For a very long time, I entertained karmic revenge fantasies, praying for him to feel what I felt. All this did, was cause me not to focus on my own life …

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I AM GETTING DIVORCED

It’s dark. I can’t breathe. There is a heavy pressure on my chest. I am more awake than asleep. I’m in my bed. I’m trying to keep my thoughts concentrated on…..nothing. It’s not working. I keep my eyes closed and try to slowly force oxygen up my nose and push it out in a gust from my mouth. The air …