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Top tips for divorce survival

Consciously choose happiness. Write it out on a big piece of paper and stick it where you will notice it. Today I choose happiness. Try and do at least one thing each day that makes you happy. Listen to an upbeat song, dance, read, go for a brisk walk, cuddle your children. You choose. Make an active choice to choose …

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Who holds you? by Bianca Hansen-Hamburger (Counselling Psychologist)

When navigating separation or divorce one is usually offered a range of practical advice; how long it will take to get divorced, how much it costs to get divorced, asset division, statistics on divorce, never mind the plethora of advice and statistics offered up on the impact of divorce on children. However, when trying to unravel ones own knot of …

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A story with a happy ending

My ex husband and I were college sweethearts – I was 18 and he was 20. We shared greasy donuts on the lawns outside the library at university. We were friends before we were an item. There was no “official” first date that I can remember. We simply evolved into an “us”. 12 years later we were ex spouses. The …

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A New Chapter of Divorce

A divorce happens when one or both people in a marriage feel that the marriage is no longer beneficial, supportive or loving. It can be traumatic and sudden, like when someone is found to be having an affair, or it can seem like a natural choice after years of quiet dissatisfaction. The people involved may find it devastating or it …