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From the daddy blogger – when good parents go bad

Married, single, divorced, moms, dads and everyone in between… No matter what terminology I use in this post, I refer to all. Now that I have that out of the way, let’s start… I was on Facebook early this morning, around 5am to be exact, when I came across this image. In one single moment it became so abundantly clear …

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First holiday season as a divorcee

December time and the festive season is a highlight for so many people…..but not for the recently divorced. I recall my first December as a divorcee. I was priviledged enough to be given a holiday by my father. I was also lucky to have my children with me. Despite this….my first December as a single divorced woman was very difficult. …

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A new beginning by Adrienne Bogatie

18 years ago I was a stay at home mom, then things changed and I was pregnant again, and neither my husband nor I had a job. I think that was when I stopped paying attention to my home, and the clutter began. Over the years I have made a half-hearted effort to declutter. Every now and again I would …

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Healing through dance by Stacey Lewis

A few weeks before my husband left me, I had started attending dance classes. Unfortunately my passion for dance is not matched with technical ability. I was thrilled when I found a dance form called NIA. For the first few weeks after my husband left, I was completely immobilized with grief and sorrow. All I was able to do was …

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POWERFUL tools for your children by Stacey Lewis

As a divorced woman, you are going through a storm of emotion; and so are your kids. Like little sponges, they pick up on your emotions and they are experiencing strong emotions of their own. It is common for children from divorced homes to feel different from their peers. This sense of otherness can often impact on self-esteem and confidence. …

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Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about how hard her life was. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three …

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The Emotional Divorce

I physically stood in the court room and divorced my ex spouse almost a decade ago. It took me many more years to complete the emotional divorce. It is so interesting. My husband chose to leave, without a process, without therapy, without trying. He said he was leaving. And he did. End. Of. Story. I was advised by many people …

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The list by Diane McKay

I remember the day so clearly. My BFF, my “sista from another Mister” arrived at my house in a huff. I opened the front door for her and she headed straight for the kitchen. She pulled up a chair for me and ordered me: “sit down and listen”. She proceeded to pour me a glass of wine and warm up …

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How cognitive coaching can help you through your divorce

Cognitive Coaching is a process whereby the coach is actually a mediator, one who figuratively stands between a person and her thinking to help her become more aware of what is going on inside her head. Cognitive Coaching uses an understanding of human behaviour to facilitate change, to help people understand their own behavioural preferences and allow them to be …