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Co-parenting with a difficult ex by Candice Janks, Counselling Psychologist

While you and your spouse have decided to end your romantic partnership; not an easy decision, particularly because a relationship between you is still required for the sake of your children. You now need to learn how to navigate new roles and redefine who you are. This can be made even more challenging when you are dealing with a difficult …

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This too shall pass by Liandre Vaughan

This too shall pass. Four words that gave me sanity during the tumultuous time of my divorce. For four years post divorce, I wore a ring inscribed with these very words. I even wrote those words on an A2 piece of cardboard and stuck it up on my bedroom wall. It gave me perspective. It gave me hope. It gave …

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Healing after Divorce by Eve Marks

I come from a divorced family, as a child, and so I have some insight into the pain and struggles before, during and after divorce. Thankfully, my parents divorced amenably and so we were left “reasonably” intact.  My husband is an attorney and I have worked with him from time to time so I see how divorce can get very …

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Design your inspired life after divorce by Jacqueline Allschwang

Let me tell you a story, it’s not the typical sort you might be used to, nor does it start like many others you might have heard. It’s not quite a fairy tale, fantasy, comedy or crime…it’s more of an adventure, albeit tinged with some tragedy, and just a pinch of horror. But it does contain some universal truths and …

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The gifts from my divorce by Stacey Lewis

Life happens to us. Often there are situations outside of our control. Sometimes we are the “victims” of decisions that have been made for us. Even when we feel that we have “no choice”, we can still choose how we respond to situation. Looking back, I have realised that there are so many gifts that have been given to me …

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A story with a happy ending

My ex husband and I were college sweethearts – I was 18 and he was 20. We shared greasy donuts on the lawns outside the library at university. We were friends before we were an item. There was no “official” first date that I can remember. We simply evolved into an “us”. 12 years later we were ex spouses. The …

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Routine as a coping strategy

Coping with life in the midst of enduring heart-crushing pain can often seem impossible. Coping with the pain and trying to be “okay” for your children can be even more difficult. A wise woman, who jokingly refers to herself as a “recovered divorcee turned guru”, helped me through a very very scary, sad and stressful time. She advised me to …

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The best advice I received through my divorce by Stacey Lewis

Through my divorce and the recovery thereafter, I sought assistance from many therapists, life coaches, self-help books and personal development workshops. Through my own process, I compiled a list of the most helpful advice I have received 1.What is, is. Whether you like it or not, the reality of your divorce exists. You need to remind yourself of this almost …

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A New Chapter of Divorce

A divorce happens when one or both people in a marriage feel that the marriage is no longer beneficial, supportive or loving. It can be traumatic and sudden, like when someone is found to be having an affair, or it can seem like a natural choice after years of quiet dissatisfaction. The people involved may find it devastating or it …

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Reframing divorce by Stacey Lewis

As any worthwhile marketer will tell you, sales is all about positioning and packaging. NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) experts will emphasise the importance of the language that we choose. So, how about some humour to allow you to reframe the negativity of being a divorcee. Life is full of possibilities. Instead of being an ex-wife, how about being : A previously …