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Survive and Thrive – from Breakup to Breakthrough

Divorce is rated as one of the most stressful life experiences, right up there with emigration and death of a spouse. It can be a tremendously traumatic time. When you’re in it, you may not even be able to imagine ever being happy again. You also not even be able to contemplate rebuilding your life. YOU ARE NOT ALONE Stacey …

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Maintenance Matters Workshop by Nina Mensing (counsellor and mediator)

This workshop is for anyone who is a single parent, or going through a divorce or separation, and is battling with calculating child maintenance or claiming child maintenance. Finances are an emotive topic, and often one where power plays itself out. With 13 milliion children in South Africa growing up in single homes, paying maintenance correctly is vital for their …

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Hello Blondie by Mandy Levin (divorce blogger)

When a woman changes her hair she is about to change her life….. I was born with pitch black hair and I have pale skin with freckles. My long hair was wildly curly and I always looked longingly at the skinny blonde girls with golden tans and silky, straight locks, thinking that their lives must just be perfect. No amount …

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Starting right now by Mandy Levin (divorce blogger)

Imagine if instead of seeing your divorce as an ending, you decided to see it as a beautiful new beginning. I mean why not? I can hear what’s happening in your head – no one will ever want me … I’m going to be alone … I can’t do this by myself … I’m not attractive… I’m an idiot… STOP! …

Practical tools for handling a difficult ex by Philippa Levitt & Stacey Lewis

One of the most difficult factors in a divorce situation can be ongoing conflict with a difficult ex. Here are some tips to assist you: 1. Have compassion I know it sometimes seems impossible to try and have compassion for someone you may be extremely angry with, or even hate…..but it’s such a useful skill to be able to turn …

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Feeling good from the outside in by Stacey Lewis

Shifi Goodman is my personal shopper and image consultant. After Shifi found me two gorgeous dresses for my book launch the other day, we had a chat over coffee.. As a young girl, Shifi would watch her grandmother sew her own clothing late into the night. She loved spending time with her glamorous gran seeing her sew each stitch with …

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Child maintenance by Nicki Macartney (Attorney and mediator)

The Million dollar question everyone wants to know is what a fair amount of maintenance is to pay. We get questions like these on social media every day. The truth is there is no easy answer to that question, so let’s explain the dynamics of Maintenance in order for you to have a better understanding of how it works. Section …