In the second episode of Single moms that rock, we interview a real powerhouse….Advocate Elsabe Steyn. Instead of the usual Q and A, Elsabe tells us her story….straight from the heart….shooting straight from the hip. Wow! What a woman! “My story is about a teenage single mother who struggled to keep her young family afloat. It’s a story about a young …
Single moms that rock – Lou Harvey
The Divorce Source will be running a series of feature articles, titled single moms that rock. Meet Lou Harvey….our first single mom rockstar! How do you juggle a career and being a single mom? Being my own boss helps a lot! I’m able to be flexible with my time and plan things around my kids schedules so that I get …
The truth about money by Jacque Allschwang (transformative coach)
There is nothing like divorce to bring your money issues into full focus. Fighting over maintenance, a tug of war over who is responsible for paying for what or not. Not to mention the sleepless nights pondering whether you will have enough to take care of yourself and your kids and the tough decisions you need to make about what …
DREADING THE DIVORCE DEBACLE? by Angela Du Plessis (mediator)
Many couples ’post-divorce experiences seem as if they are still in a marriage where the bonds of love have been replaced by bonds of hatred. Research has shown that it is not the divorce per se that harms the children, it is the level of conflict between their parents that the children witness. Divorces that end up with adversarial lawyers …
Keep your eye on the ball by Stacey Lewis (author, divorce coach, mediator)
Divorce has been highlighted as one of the most stressful life traumas – it’s right up on the list with death of a spouse and emigration. The early days and months post divorce can be a time of high emotion, and this can often lead to clouded judgement and acting out of emotion. In South Africa, we have a no-fault …
3 Simple steps to healing your relationship with food during and after divorce by Kimberly Sammaritano, Psychology of Eating Coach
The relationship between food and emotion is a strong one. We are emotional eaters. As chemically driven beings, we are often at the mercy of our hormones and stress chemicals, most especially when facing the monumental life change and stress experienced in divorce. Turning to food in the time running up to and during divorce is common. Food is comforting. …
De-stress your divorce by Jacque Allschwang (Transformational coach)
Getting divorced is without a doubt one of the most stressful experiences you may ever go through in your life. It presents a series of life challenges that are guaranteed to disrupt your physical, mental and emotional balance. It is a time of change and loss. It represents the death of life as you have known it, a period of …
Post separation amnesia by Anonymous
The weirdest thing seems to be happening to me since the start of my separation- I walk into places and people pretend that they have no clue who I am. Have they forgotten I was at their engagement party… and then their wedding? Maybe a mind slip that I attended their child’s birthday party? And the worst part about this …
Survive and Thrive – from Breakup to Breakthrough
Divorce is rated as one of the most stressful life experiences, right up there with emigration and death of a spouse. It can be a tremendously traumatic time. When you’re in it, you may not even be able to imagine ever being happy again. You also not even be able to contemplate rebuilding your life. YOU ARE NOT ALONE Stacey …
Moving away with kids – here’s what you need to know by Simon D Dippenaar (attorney)
It’s natural to want to make a fresh start after divorce. Inevitably, at least one party must move out of the marital home. Where there are children involved, it is often the father who moves, to minimise disruption to the daily life of the children. Sometimes both parties move, often for financial reasons. Generally, when there are children, parents will …
