A new beginning by Adrienne Bogatie

18 years ago I was a stay at home mom, then things changed and I was pregnant again, and neither my husband nor I had a job. I think that was when I stopped paying attention to my home, and the clutter began. Over the years I have made a half-hearted effort to declutter. Every now and again I would make a stab at it and sign up for blogs that give you advice, but it never worked. At the beginning of the year, my mind-set changed and I was ready to take charge of my life and my home. Part of this was finding a way to do it without being overwhelmed. The decluttering is helping me move on; it is almost a rebirth of me.
One of the most difficult aspects to decluttering is the emotional baggage that comes with your stuff. In one article I read on declutter, the lady Marie Kondo, whose method of decluttering is call the Konmari method, stated you start with things that are abstract, like clothes and only declutter keepsakes and photo’s last. She also stated that when getting rid of something, you must hold it and if it doesn’t make you feel good, it must go!
I tried, I started with my clothes, and yes there were some clothes I just couldn’t part with, because they hold such good memories, but there were others that went into the pile of ‘get rid of it’ very easily.
The other stuff that was relatively easy to get rid of was the kitchen stuff as I bought most of it myself, usually during a retail therapy session.
I used the Konmari method of organizing, for my clothes.  Marie Kondo is a Japanese lady whose method is taking the world by storm! She has written 4 books on the subject, the latest being the life changing magic of tiding up.
She advocates an all at once policy, starting with you clothes cupboard and ending with mementos as these are the hardest to purge.
Kondo suggests that you empty your entire cupboard into one spot and then purge. The rules are simple, no clothes that you have labelled ‘one day I will fit into them again’; no clothes that you will wear just to hang around the house in (this is clothes that you can’t go out in public because they are too old, too worn, too faded, or even broken). If you would need to change before going out in public, it goes into the dustbin.  You physically have to pick up and touch each item of clothing before you decide where it is going.  No items I-got-it-as-a-gift or I-only-wear-it-to-sleep-in.  One blogger says that your room will now look like a clothing store threw up all over your floor.
Kondo says that if the clothing doesn’t spark a happy feeling within you then get rid of it. I know I have a few of these in my cupboard.  The reason she gives for touching each item is that fabric apparently holds energy, I don’t know that she isn’t wrong about this. We all have or had  something in our cupboards that we wore and the day or event was a disaster, I have a dress that I wore and someone asked me when I was due.  My baby at the time was 7 years old.
Kondo suggest that before you throw something out thank it for it’s role in your life and then toss!
Once your clothes are sorted and here Kondo proposes that you should fold as much as you can, she even has a method for folding the clothes.
All these clothes that you are not keeping can then be sold as jumble if you need some cash or donated to charity, or both.
After much research and reading, I am now following (sort of) the 15 minute a day method. It is a very good method and is working well for me on the days that I do my 15 minutes!  There are just some days that I come home from work exhausted from having spent the day in the operating theatre (I am a nurse) assisting till 5 pm, that even the thought of cooking supper makes me either want to cry or curl up in bed with the covers over my head.
My house is a lot better, but it is still a work in progress (lots of work not so much progress). Even though it is slow going, I feel a sense of accomplishment when I get through a section.
I have set a date for the jumble sale for December, so I have had plenty of time to get things together, remember your jumble sale doesn’t only have to be clothes, it can be other things as well.
My last big jumble sale, I actually sold something for R50, that didn’t work. There was a big sign on it saying, this is broken, make me an offer.
By clearing out the old stuff, you get rid of baggage, make a few bucks on the side; you will be astounded how much this little (or big) task makes moving forward that much easier.
Some good advice I read recently said that you must never buy big ticket items immediately, go home and think about it first, if after 24 hours you still feel it is something you must have and you can afford it without using your credit card, then buy it otherwise leave it for some other sucker to get into debt over.
It took me 3 months before I bought my Victorinox knife. I have two weaknesses, shoes and kitchen gadgets (including recipe books). I saw a really nice linen shift dress the other day, to me a big ticket item is anything over R50 that is not essential to daily living, and so the dress with R850 price tag on remains on the hanger in the store. It’s really nice dress, did I say that already?
With January just around the corner, here’s to New Beginnings.


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